The Monday Motivator | Facing Fear

April 8, 2019

The Monday Motivator is a series meant to motivate, encourage, inspire and provide advice on real life stuff.*

Alright y'all, the FF has a little secret about herself to share.

I'm afraid of everything.

That's right folks- this blogger's got fears. And lots of em'. 

Different things have scared me through all the phases of my life thus far. Fear of change. Fear of regret. Fear of commitment. Fear of the unknown. The list goes on and on. But what I've learned is if I think back to all of those times I've been afraid of something, I overcame the fear and ended up where I am now, which isn't so bad at all.

But why though, after knowing all of this, am I still afraid of so many things? Why am I unable to surrender to the unknown and accept whatever will happen?

Easy. I'm a control freak.

I want to be in control of everything in my life and take responsibility for my own outcomes. Sounds ridiculous, right? That's because it is ridiculous. It's impossible to control what's exactly going to happen in each step of our lives.

We can't control what happens when it comes to the things that bring us fear, but what we CAN  do is face fear. We can be brave and have courage and look fear in the face and say,  "bring it on."

This is not to say that we're not allowed to have fears. We are allowed to be afraid of as many things as we want! But when we face fear instead of running from it, we become stronger.

I'm currently in the scary life phase of buying a home. I've been looking at places, crunching numbers and learning a lot about the process. Although it's a very exciting part of growing up, it is still bringing me a lot of fear.  Will I still see my family? Can I afford it? Will I get scared by myself?  All of these worries stress me out. But by facing my list of fears, I can move forward. And learn. And grow.

So my advice is not to figure out how to hide from fear, but to face it. Because only then can you chase it away.

I'm rooting for you,

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